Are YOU Being Affected by an Anti-Social (Suppressive) Personality?

Salaam (Peace) to all.

It should be noted that we may all occasionally demonstrate anti-social "tendencies", and this does not make one, necessarily, and anti-social "person". However, where the personality consistently demonstrates more than one or two of these "tendencies", it may be a sign of the need for corrective action.

Here are some indicators:

The anti-social (suppressive) personality...

...likes to use general terms like "everyone knows..." or, "you know what they say", to try to justify their ill feelings or bias against an individual, group, organization or project.

...deals mainly in bad news and invalidation of others.

...alters, for the worse, information he or she is given to pass on.

...does not respond to treatment, reform or psychotherapy.

...is normally surrounded by people who are crippled by his/her negativity (when he/she is present).

...habitually selects the wrong target; blames everything or everyone except the actual cause.

...cannot finish a cycle of action; is laden with a host of unfinished projects.

...does not accept responsibility for his/her wrongs or violations. It's always "somebody else's fault", or it "just happened".

...supports only destructive groups and attacks - even if only verbally - any betterment group.

...supports only destructive groups and attacks any activity aimed at self-improvement.

...cannot stomach sincerely helping others, but will easily feign help to get a chance to do harm.

...has no real respect for the property of others, and seeks to invalidate the success of others.


HOW TO KNOW if you are being affected by an Anti-Social Personality (ASP) or Suppressive Personality (SP):

The person (or persons) affected by an ASP/SP will usually be on an "emotional roller coaster", doing well (active) when the suppressive influence is absent, and doing badly (passive) when the suppressive influence is present.

There are two basic ways a person can be ill affected by an ASP/SP:
1) He/She is associated with, or connected to, an ASP/SP in his/her present time environment; either in the vicinity of, or in communication with.
2) He/She is having a PAST suppression "restimulated" by someone or something in his/her present time environment.

If you find yourself doing "great" some days, and then, for no apparent reason feeling "down in the dumps" or "anxious" about something; it could be that you are connected to a suppressive person or environment, or you are connected to persons or environments which closely resemble past incidents of suppression and they are restimulating your reaction to those past incidents.

What should one who is affected by an ASP/SP do?

In short, it only requires a few steps:
A) DISCOVER who or what is having a suppresive effect on you.
B) CONFRONT the fact that you are experiencing suppression.
C) HANDLE the situation by direct (but respectful) Communication, designed to inform the possible ASP/SP of the suppressive effect(s) he/she is having on you (they may be unaware).

If that does not work, then possibly the best thing to do is to...
D) DISCONNECT from the person(s) or environment that is having a suppressive effect on you.

In the Case of one who is having a "past suppression" restimulated by present time circumstances, one could disconnect as well; but the root solution would be to get resolution/closure on the Past suppression, and that will make one's present time situation more bearable.

I realize some of these terms may sound "semi-clinical", but don't let that throw you. Just focus on the Ideas/Principles given, and they can do wonders!

RM